Whene you want something, act with boldness never hesitate or be shy.
If you are unable to enter with full boldness, my advice to you is never attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will block you and hold you back from executing. Put in your mind that people admire the bold and dishonor the timid. There is a big difference between someone who is bold and someone who is shy, hesitating. If you hesitate, then you are putting a lot of inexisting obstacles in your path while boldness removes those obstacles. If you understand this, you will find that it is very critical to overcome timidity and practice becoming more audacious and bold.
This story demonstrates what you can get by being bold:
A real story happened in Japan about a very poor man and his wife living in a room. All what he does is just reading books without working. One day, his wife, all in tears and sorrow, said to him "You focus your energy only on reading books, I spent my youth in washing and sewing for other people and yet i have no jacket or skirt to wear and we have no food to eat since three days ago. Look at our situation it is unsupportable, I can no longer stand."... Hearing these words, the man closed his book, stood up and went out without saying a word...Arrived to the city center and asked a man. " Hellomy freind! who is the richest man in the town?" he answered: "Don't you know Lee Muey the Millionaire? he live over there near the imperial garden." The poor man walked toward the rich man's home, Entered with his eyes looking upward and his chest is pushed onward and addressed the host: "I need a huge sum of money to start my commercial business". He abswered: "Alright, sir. Where shall i send the money." and they agreed. All the people people in the room were astonished about the reaction of the host and ho he accepted to lend him the money he requested without guarantees. The rich man has answered them: "Even though he was in ragged clothes, he spoke clearly to the point without betraying shame or inferiority, unlike comman people want to borrow money for a bad debt. That man is self-confident in doing his business. His voice power and shiny eyes triggered a feeling inside me that this man has a superhuman brain, worthy of my trust.
I know money and i know man. Money often makes a man small, but a man like him makes big money. I am very glad to have helped a big man to do a big business."
The life's rule: "Always act boldly, never hesitate or feel shy, if you hesitate do it directly and don't leave a chance to retreat to start thinking of consequences. Make a good and safe plan and act boldly and directly. Bear in mind that what can be damaged can be restored"
Even if you lie, boldness will make people believe you. We all are weak in some way and we all have defficiencies. The safest way to hide those defeciencies is by being bold and present more arguments and narrate as much stories as you can. On the other hand, if you are a shy hesitating person, you will not only put a lot of obstacles in your way, but also anyone will use your weakness to their side. Everything depends on the first perception, Once you are seen as a kind, shy person who quickly goes on the defensive and willing to negociate and provide diplomatic solutions; Make sure you will be kicked out without mercy as soon as they want to get rid of someone.
Always try to be bold, boldness will make you look larger and more powerful than you are. Anyone will care about your emotions, about your feelings and whether anything would make you angry or happy.
If you have, by chance, encountered a snake on your way but suddenly it made a terrible sound and horrible move toward you. Hahaha, I imagine how much fear it would inspire in me. even if it is a little snake of 2 meters or less i would see it as if a Cobra or a lion trying to attack me. But Imagine if i encounter a little, kind and colorful birth unable to fly; I will be very courageous to attack and bring it home and i may even put it in a little cage, I feed it what i want and the quantity i want.
So the weak and shy person is more like a little bird, its life depends on others, the bold people are the one who decide what to give him and what to take from him.If you hesitate in doing things, this means, my dear, that you would be safer if you do nothing. and you will always think about stopping advancing to return to your starting point. My advice to you is set to work without fear of failure since it is already an evidence that you will fail for sure.
It is a reality that most of us are timid. We want to avoid tension and conflicts and we want to be honored and liked by all. We reject to act boldly because we are terrified of the consequences. we always think about others will think of us.
You must practice and develop your boldness. You will always find uses for it. You will neede it at you job or school or elesewhere. It is a habit that will make your personality stronger and stronger. go ahead and ask for all what you want boldly and without hesitation. the first place to train yourself is the situations in which you can set a price, choose a product, request a bonus from your boss, ask a girl for a date,...Always put in mind that when you ask for too little, you are under estimating yourself. Always set your value high even higher.
Understand: If boldness is not natural, neither is timidity. it is a 100% acquired habit. stop telling yourself i am born like that a shy person who fears the consequences of bold actions. For your information: the consequenses of timidity is worse. Your value is lowered and you create a self-fulfilling cycle of doubt and disaster. Remember: the problems created by bold actions and move can be disguised, even remedied.
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